Hey Everyone, I recently started seeing someone, and shortly after meeting them I learned that they might have schizophrenia because of some of the things they said and did.
I mentioned that she might have it, that I don’t see her as any lesser for having it and I will be as supportive as I can.
Turns out, she also has anosognosia and auditory hallucinations. I watched her repeat something a friend never said, sure that he did say it. Even the friend admitted he never said it. Which then caused her to concoct a narrative where I was an agent sent by the government to undermine and discredit her by saying that she has a mental illness.
This agent narrative then became a huge sticking point in the relationship. Despite all the love and affection we had for each other, it was really hard for her to trust me.
I tried talking to her parents, but due to cultural differences they were racist, and also refused to admit that their daughter might have schizophrenia. And since they didn’t like me, they banned her from seeing me, and told her that I would institutionalize her.
And due to her Anosognosia, she keeps cutting off contact with me, which her parents want to happen. She admitted the racist things they tell her on a constant basis in an effort to dissuade her from talking to me.
To make matters worse, she has a therapist that she’s been talking to for years, and the therapist has yet to diagnose her.
She also doesn’t have a lot of friends, as she tends to push them away because of her illness.
I see all of these people in her life failing her, and even as I try to help and be supportive, the people that are failing her are actively preventing me from doing any good, while only enabling her Anosognosia.
It infuriates me because she’s someone I care about deeply, and I don’t know what to do. I know she cares deeply for me, but it’s annoying to know that her mother’s friends, her cousin, and her father’s efforts to convince her that I’m a bad guy is so effective. It legitimately makes me hate them.
It’s like they poisoned her mind against me, causing her to push away the one person that actually wants to help her deal with her illness.
Should I just leave her alone? A lot of people say that I should just write her off. she’s had a traumatic life, from child abuse to sexual assault, and after reading just how hard people with schizophrenia have it, I don’t want to be another one of those people that just push her aside because it’s too much trouble.
What would be the wisest decision here? Continue to try to help, or cut all contact and move on knowing that she might not get the helps she needs anytime soon?