I also have a hard time understanding why people have kids (especially more than one) in a world where so many children already exist that need to be adopted. I understand that it probably feels really special to create a brand new person, but I feel bad for all those kids that need adopting. If I was ever interested in having kids, I’d adopt in an instant. My fiancé gets shit for it too. People ask him why he doesn’t care about “carrying on his legacy.” It’s like…your legacy is how you live your life…and if you adopt, that kid will be loved just as much as a biological kid and they’ll still be a reflection of your skills as a parent. I always thought that “legacy” comment was the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard
Uhhh those old grumpy ladies with their shocking expressions and always so worried about mankind. I fucking hate them.
‘You should take care of your kids behaviour’
‘Why is he crying so loudly’
‘Poor girl, I’m so sorry because you ruined your life’
You cannot escape those creatures. But just be aware of their horrible shallowness.
As someone that’s been trying and failing to have a kid for several years, people that day is selfish because other people want it and can’t have it is completely asinine. Seriously? I’ve heard that same thing so many times and its the dumbest fucking attempt at a guilt trip I’ve ever heard.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with not having kids. And it’s so much harder when you have to make the decision to not try. I’m sorry you had to do that at all. I don’t get why people are so invested in others sex lives.
How old are you?
I found in my 20’s the questions or replies of others were annoying and I’d roll my eyes. I never had any plans to have children. Now in my 30’s, when they say something, they WANT a REPLY/RESPONSE!!! And make it really uncomfortable until I give some sort of reply. I’m practically the only one in my graduating high school class of 300 that doesn’t have kids.
Oh my god so much shallowness!! It’s like, just let me live and I’ll let your old ass live too haha I don’t know why older generations always feel the need to put our generation down
I totally hear you about people being WAY to interested in other people’s sex lives. It’s like that private, and whether I have kids is between me and my fiancé. And yeah deciding not to have kids was hard. I’ve thought about it almost every day since I first developed my symptoms and eventually came to my final decision. It wasn’t easy. I’m so sorry you’ve been having a hard time having kids, I hope you’re able to have one soon. I’ve known women with fertility issues and it’s so hard on them to have to keep trying. Stay strong!
I’m 20, so I get the whole “You’re young, you’ll change your mind” thing. And what people don’t seem to get is that my mind will never change. When I tell people how much I’ve thought this through they just roll their eyes and say “You’ll change your mind. Trust me.” It makes me also not want kids just to prove them wrong haha I hate when people try to act like they know what I want and what best for me better than I do
I get the opposite. When I tell people I’m sz they tell me I should never ever have kids because I’ll ruin them with my mental illness. So just remember, those people would judge you no matter which choice you made. Just wear sunglasses to block the haters.
In today’s world many women decide not to have children for a variety of reasons. It is your decision. I applaud your awareness.
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I got a vasectomy when I was 27. I knew early on that I don’t want kids. My wife, for reasons I’m not going to enumerate, is incapable of having children. We decided that if we want kids, we can adopt later in life. I’m now 34, and she’ll be 40 in July, and we are no closer to wanting kids.
I have really strong feelings/opinions on this topic. It absolutely disgusts me when people have babies without even thinking about it. It is selfish to mindlessly bring a human being into this world. Your decision is the responsible, thoughtful choice and I commend you for it. Having said that, I had a baby while in a highly abusive marriage. He is the absolute light of my life and joy of my heart, and I always say I would go through it all again to have my son. But he did suffer, and he does have schizophrenia. Is his life worth less, or would I go back and not have him? No, he is an amazing person and I’m glad he’s here. But, I knew right away that I would not/should not have any more kids. It’s for sure a personal choice and no one can make it for you. But any time I hear someone thinking it through and making a conscious decision I applaud that!
I have to say, my kid is my life, and I would have ended it thousands times if he wasn’t here, but I also regretted numerous of times for bringing him to this world before making myself stable and more responsible.
Well it wasn’t actually a matter of decision, but still I got those dark thoughts about being incapable to give him the best of life, and for ruining it in longterm perspective.
So why would you let yourself to the mercy of such thoughts? You are waaay mature than me from three years ago and now. And times are changing, you may think differently ten years from now. In this moment I think you are very very responsible for your age.
Thank you, that means a lot coming from you because I hear about you doing such a good job of raising your son and I give you so much credit. You honestly have all my respect for all the things you do so well despite having obstacles to overcome
Thank you 
I’m so glad you think I’m doing the right thing. That was my biggest concern, that is make a decision about my life not knowing if it was the right one
Wow people really are never satisfied! Yeah I guess whatever I do I’ll get people who don’t agree with it. Just gotta keep those sunglasses on!
Yeah some people just plain never want kids and there’s no shame in that at all. Why should people have kids if they don’t want them? And if you did want kids, I agree about adoption. I’m a huge adoption advocate