I’ve been recommending self affirmation techniques to friends and family a lot over the past few years. Self affirmation being reassuring yourself of your positive qualities by saying them out loud to yourself when you feel down, hopeless, or desperate.
Ever since I went through some of my own really hard times, I found that self affirmation was actually really helpful. (stories for some other time)
It’s a simple process:
- Say you’re awesome / a good person / valuable.
- Pick a quality that you like about yourself.
- Say you’re awesome because of that quality.
You can repeat it as a mantra, or keep picking new qualities to remind yourself that you possess.
I’ve definitely recommended this to my brother, mother and lots of friends plenty of times. It helps to recognize that there may be plenty of reasons to feel down, but there are also plenty of reasons to be grateful and to feel hope for the future.
If you’re struggling, or if you know someone who is, I’d say give it a shot. It doesn’t hurt.
Self affirmation can feel awkward at first, especially if you say the words out loud (like I do, often in fact). But it also starts to incite a feeling of comfort and reassurance pretty quickly.
Reminding yourself of your strength and your desireable qualities can help you to focus efforts toward rewarding and productive tasks throughout the day. It also helps to free up some space in that “emotional cup”, or to reinforce your resillince for the coming day ahead of you.
I read about a lot of strife and struggle here. This isn’t the cure all in any way. But it does help. It’s helped me a lot.
Maybe the tenacity and the drive to keep trudging forward is part of what you or someone close to you needs and self affirmation is a surprisingly effective way to cultivate it.
Does anyone else use self affirmation techniques?