Well, I agree that sitting around doing nothing is probably bad for him, but equally I think that our habit of defining ourselves through our work is probably not good either. That competitive side of social attitudes can really damage people’s self esteem when they have a disability, and that then aggravates their stress and depression. So if you’re not careful, you can’t win. Sheer boredom and loneliness can bring on depression and psychosis, but so can assessing oneself according to unachievable and even dehumanizing goals.
In fact as my son got better step by step, he started doing things. First, playing computer games. He was really cagey about it at first. He thought id accuse him of being lazy, but in fact modern computer games are really hard to play, and good for cognitive skills. So I used to sit next to him and admire the graphics, production values, etc. Then he started doing weights. Then he enrolled for some evening classes. At this point he was off his meds, had a break and was hospitalized. We got him out as fast as possible. He was motivated by the fact he was missing his classes. He started on depot injections. Since then he has carried on improving and studying. He did an art course and is doing online programming courses. As far as I am concerned there is no rush for him to get an actual job. He is talking about getting a part time job so he meets people. I said he can do that or maybe do voluntary work. But basically he wants to have a life, of course. I am sure your son is the same. What I have emphasized to my son is that he should do things that he really enjoys. And that no, I don’t expect him to try to impress me or anyone else by dedication to wage slavery. I want him to have a good quality of life. I don’t care about the Protestant work ethic!