My friend was considering sending his daughter out of state if necessary to get the best care for her.
If you're paying for it with your own insurance, it's not like you have to stay local. It would just make it hard to visit.
But, the sad part is that most of these people don't have a lot of visitors. I visited my son every time they had visiting hours. That was 3X/week at one hospital and every night at another. Lots of times, I would be the only visitor in his unit.
Some nights, the kids would have visiting hours too, and sometimes there would be a lot of visitors, sometimes none.
Of course, a lot of families weren't local, but I'm sure that wasn't the case for everyone.
My friend experienced the same thing, He said they rarely saw other visitors at the residential place.
Anyway, the most important thing is that he's safe & you guys are safe, and he gets the treatment he needs. Maybe, doctors who are experts in this kind of thing can help and he'll be entirely different.
You said that he was compliant with his medication. That's a good thing, but the wrong medication can make them worse. Was he violent before medication?