Uugg so we are camping and home neighbor said there was breaking , yelling at our house last night at 4am. I just called police. they made a visit. Broken plates etc. He suggested we start eviction. This particular officer knew our son from previous visits, all state police are trained in mental health. Its effecting my health now, as i have an autoimmune disease, which is affected by stress. This flare scared me, as i read with frequent flares life span can be decreased to 5 years. Son is literally killing me. My son refuses medication. The officer was harsh, but he is right. Theres no housing unless he cooperates, then a year waiting. My immediate family say its him or me. He’s ruined one home to point of demolition. Now he is doing it to ours. But my health is main concern.
This is a good example of where E. Fuller Torrey is right about forced medication. If your son can’t live anywhere, then he’s homeless and that’s a terrible outcome.
I suppose it’s the involuntary (always short-term) commitment for a psych evaluation route. The police should have been able to take him to an ER based on him being a danger to himself (broken plates) or others - you. Since that didn’t happen I think you will have to get a court order for it to happen.
I love how law enforcement always goes to eviction. Although they may be trained in mental health, they are still treating your son like a criminal who is “choosing” to be dangerous rather than a victim who cannot control his moods and actions. Sz isn’t substance abuse. You can’t use “tough love” or “scared straight.” I have fibromyalgia and the stress from my daughter’s aggression left me quite sick and helpless. However the terror of her living on the streets gave me even more stress. We are really put between a rock and a hard place. I agree that court ordered hospitalization and hopefully court ordered medication injections might be the next step. It worked for my daughter, but it took a long time. I know that I have not given you much comfort but please know that I have experienced the same type of anguish and serious health issues regarding my daughter. It is hell. It isn’t fair. I often shake my fist heavenwards and yell. But remember the mother of a child with terminal cancer feels the same but a police officer would never suggest eviction of her child. We need help that doesn’t exist. We need help in raising awareness that our children deserve better.
I agee. Once we thought about it, it wasn’t right what he said. Its just so frustrating because my son won’t cooperate with the service’s that could help him. If he wasn’t so destructive, we could deal with it.,
Possibly the option of last resort is to press charges on him for destruction of property and assault to you. It is not easy. But you cannot continue doing the same and expect different results. Maybe in connecting him with the justice system he can get into a mental health court, or order get Assisted Community Treatment, or some kind of treatment. I know is not easy.
My son was the same, he’s 27 and was diagnosed in 2015. At 1st he was cooperating with all services. But then he just stopped. He seemed to give up and become depressed. He stopped taking his meds and became a nightmare to live with. He was mean and hateful and disruptive. The police have told me several times to evict him and Ive thought about it and even wrote up the paperwork. But if I didnt want to deal with him, how could I expect the world to hamdle him on the street with no meds knowing his violent tendencies off meds? So finally they baker acted him for about a week. He was given an ultimatum that its my rules or go to a group home or homeless shelter. Mind you, we had been through this ultimatum several times but somehow when we actually drove him to a group home to complete the intake, he finally realized we were serious. Since then and Im not saying that some days are worse than others but he is taking his meds, got a part time job, and even attempts to clean (he has disorganized sz) He is trying which he wasn’t doing before. I honestly dont want to live with him at all but he cant help it and you wouldnt throw a cancer patient out so Im dealing with it. There needs to be supportive AFFORDABLE housing that gives the independence a grown person is entitled to but with the ssistance each individual needs. Im in FL and there is none. Best wishes to us all!
Completely agree. Often times the path to getting our loved ones treatment isn’t how we would imagine or would prefer. Hard choices are sometimes necessary.
Where do we you live? I wish we had group homes available in Delaware, they have some housing but very long wait, I honestly think my son would be better with peers like him. The ACT team he just started to supposedly going to help with that. And Ofcourse he has to be in a supervised one so he will take meds. Wait even longer for that.