I feel the pain of not being able to help your loved one. It is heartbreaking. It is like an awake bad dream to not be able to help those we love.
The law protects each individual, giving rights to do as we please (even acting VERY oddly) EXCEPT if we are a hurting others, or ourselves. I work in the legal field. The “slippery slope” stops that “first step” of authorities helping someone who is NOT in danger or causing danger.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ Slippery _ slope
“A slippery slope argument … asserts that a relatively small first step leads to a chain of related events culminating in some significant (usually negative) effect.”
There must be a clear danger for authorities to step in. Someone lying unconscious is obviously in danger, but what if they are just sleeping in the grass? Someone drinking in a bar is not posing a danger, but what if that person gets in a car to drive? Someone dancing nearly naked is odd, but what if it is freezing weather? Etc. It isn’t illegal to be odd, but add in active danger to self or others and the police can step in. ONLY if they SEE active danger.
The police have interacted with my daughter or I over forty plus times in 2 years. There were only 5 times they acted to detain her. Sunday, my daughter was psychotic in public, yes, not illegal. BUT this time, she was running in and out of traffic on a busy downtown street, putting herself and drivers at risk. So, she went to jail for disorderly conduct. At arraignment, I asked to speak to the judge and explained FULLY my daughter’s hallucinations/delusions. I was strong and forceful in my descriptions. It sort of shocked the audience. I didn’t sugar coat it. The result was she is court ordered onto meds and she was Baker Acted from the jail, and has now been forcibly injected with a long acting anti-psychotic. I still feel sick to my stomach. I did this to my sweet daughter. No, I did it FOR my sweet daughter. I had to empasize the dangerousness of her behavior and her failure to take meds willingly.
How many times have we been outraged at a show of force by the police? It is a delicate balancing act in civil matters. Law enforcement walks that line on a daily basis. If you want your loved one detained, they must be posing a danger, actively, to self or others. AND, you must be emphatic in insisting they are dangerous and you are scared. If the police can’t SEE it when they come, they only see ODD behavior and can’t detain.
I finally, finally, was able to ask for forced treatment and emphasize the danger in her odd behavior. This time I did it in front of a judge. I hope that it brings my daughter peace.