I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 4-5 months now. I went into the relationship knowing he had schizo-affective disorder with depressive tendency. About 2 months ago his father died, and after a few weeks I noticed he just wasn’t himself. He was abusing alcohol more, spending money more and wanted less to do with me. I contacted a member on social media because I haven’t yet met his family. This person passed the info on to his mother along with my number. He talked with his mother but has continued on a more destructive path. He let his insurance expire and won’t do anything to renew it, and most recently has decided he is going off his meds. He at first said it was because he couldn’t pay for them until insurance came back, but informed me yesterday that he doesn’t need them or want them. I know for sure its been 3 days off meds, but I suspect it’s closer to a week.
It’s been over a day since I’ve heard from him now - and this is someone who will call me at least once an hour while he is awake. I’ve called him several times and his phone is either dead or off, and he hasn’t responded to my messages on social media.
The easiest thing would be to just drive to his home, but I’m at work until late, and my gas tank is low until tomorrow.
I guess my questions are is this normal behavior? He’s not done this since I’ve known him and he is super clingy. Should I call someone in his family? They live a few hours away and I don’t want to make them worked if it’s really nothing. But the last time he was off his meds he was admitted into inpatient (so I’ve been told).
Other questions I have involve how to emotionally support someone with his condition. He rarely wants to talk about it, but will answer one or 2 questions begrudgingly and becomes agitated if I pursuse the topic. I want to have a frank conversation with his mother but I’m unsure if that’s even appropriate because I’ve never even met her and our relationship is so new.
I just want to be assured that I’m worrying excessively and he is okay…