My Sz ex’s family are the ultimate “pull yourself up by your own bootstraps” people. Case in point, the family home he has lived in for the past 6 years (since our divorce) has been sold. He has a less than a month to move out. His mom has already been moved into assisted living (by sister and bro in law).
So now he’s alone in the house with few prospects of where he is going to live, what he can afford to rent; his shit (belongings) everywhere— he’s s bit of a hoarder. In short he is overwhelmed.
He HAS known he’d have to move all summer. But for whatever reason, did little to find a new home. I know he is cognitively impaired and very stressed. He cried a little over the phone.
He’s seen one or two options. His next step is to apply for emergency housing for the mentally ill through the county.
I’m angry that his family went ahead with the move without getting him settled in his own place first. They are not poor, and just sold the house . There are vague promises to help him financially.
I get that my ex can be aggravating—believe me, I know!—but what about his being disabled does his family not get? He can’t do this on his own.
My OWN family is more concerned about him than his own. They ask me, where he will live, how will he support himself, etc. Typical for my big Italian family. And they don’t particularly like him, but they are concerned for his well-being.
I’m going to his house next week for 2 days to help out and better assess the situation. Of course, I’ve only heard his side of the story.
What do you guys think?