As I grow, boundaries have become different and I am trying to find my footing to enforce some and abide by some.
When I was care giving on a more involved basis I set a lot of boundaries with help and back-up of the parents. Those boundaries were so easy, looking back.
We both agreed to never yell at each other, throw things, slam doors, or cuss at one another. We both agreed to go away when asked by the other.
But growing up has changed the boundaries. The original boundaries are so set in habit that they don’t seem like anything. We have built to new boundaries.
I guess my question is… when you care give to someone older and they get stronger and resume a more parental roll, what do you do?
How do you go back into that more subordinate roll with out being resentful or how do you maintain that stronger roll without hurting any feelings or making things worse?