Family and Caregiver Schizophrenia Discussion Forum

Boyfriend is so cruel to me

Hi my boyfriend has shizophrenic and bipolar and blaming me for Fighting but says things that bother me and a girl almost two months ago sent him a pic of her boobs in her bra and he said be careful she goes thro my phone and said he tried deleting it and didn’t tell me bc he knew I freak and he has a little girl and we had a fight while ago and told her he loves her and wants to be back there and when I said something he said he only said it bc he was angry but we have good days and then he just freaking over small stuff I have depression and bad insecurities and trust issues I’m trying not to fight with him and try to make things better but like today he said he is having a bad depression day and said I’m bugging him bc I ask him if we r ok bc he said he is having mix thoughts and last time 5 months ago he had mix thoughts and sent me home what do I do

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Is he on treatment? If not, improving is very difficult. Remember, it is your choice to be in this relationship. You can just walk and should not feel guilty. You can support him from distance or just cut it all together. It is a hard reality sometimes we have to face.

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I would leave him as soon as possible. You have depression and insecurities? Well being with a person who suffered from Bipolar and schizophrenia will make your so complicated and stressful . Is your boyfriend on medication?

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I meant to write being with someone that has schizophrenia and Bipolar disorder will make your life even more stressful and complicated than it already may be.

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Yes he is he finally took his pill little while ago and if better now

Thank u for ur honest but I don’t give up easy and especially on some one I love

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It will Not get better. Sorry.
If You have a choice to be away safely, & can afford to live.
I would in a second. Many people are stuck.
Love should be kind, fun, respectful & happy.

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100% agreed on love idkwhy… it SHOULD be.

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RUN, don’t walk, to the nearest exit! Nothing good will come of this relationship.

When you say you don’t give up easily, that tells me you believe you can change him, or that with the right medication or whatever, he will change. Dear god, I wish I had a dollar for every woman who thought that about their boyfriend/fiancé/husband! Please trust me on this. HE WON’T CHANGE! You will simply end up miserable and abused with your self-esteem on the floor and possibly tied forever to him with a kid or two. Get out while you can.

I have a child with someone with sz at first I thought I could change him ! I joined this forum and I read so many stories even shared a few of my own and I learned it won’t change . I’m sorry but this is a very serious illness and it only gets worse ! I’ve been severely depressed for 3 years . My child’s father even got a point where he wouldn’t get off the sofa and bathe for days ! It got really bad ! So you are basically sacrificing your happiness to make somebody happy that still won’t be be happy !

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