My mind is hurting immensely. My son has never been on meds. He is having the 3rd episode isolated & homeless. First 2 episodes resolved by getting him his own place. Now I am terrified. I am the legal guardian in IN. I am inconsolable as I do not see the info anywhere that as guardian, I have the authority to obtain a civil mandate to move my son into a housing. And I learned about mental writ. Vs emergency detention. The psychiatrist who issued statement for guardianship stating that my son needs meds & longterm in patient care is not signing the emergency detention form. My son is intelligent with a degree from top 10 univ. He is being left to wander on streets get hurt or become a criminal. I am terrified & the grief has engulfed me. No relatives. No dad for my son. This episode is killing me. I have lost 12 lbs from my 114 lbs as I am unbale to eat meals due to nausea from anxiety.
I am so sorry to hear that you and your son are experiencing this right now,
What comes to my mind first is as a caretaker we need to put our own oxygen mask on first before we can help others.
Essentially getting yourself regulated and then starting a plan for this new crisis.
Being in India are there homeless shelters or Street outreach programs?
It may be a place to start this is what I did when my brother was homeless for a little over a year I contacted the shelters and tried to stay in touch with those that were going to be around him.
I live in Indianapolis. Been living here for 2 yrs. I have lived in the US and raised my son in the US for 30 yrs.
Oh I’m sorry I missed that in your post ,
So a starting point may be to locate the homeless shelters and out reach programs around your area ,call them and explain your situation and ask if your son has shown up there .
Chraya, are there any NAMI support groups close enough for you to attend? Being in a room with other people who understand your feelings and have suffered similar experiences can help. Also, they may have advice for you about resources particular to Indianapolis.
I understand your frustration with guardianship, my husband was guardian for his parents. Guardianship is more useful once they are in a hospital or a courtroom as you will have a strong voice there as his guardian.
I am so sorry, I know your situation is agonizing.
Hi Chraya - What are your current options. It looks like you can 1) get a civil mandate to move your son into your home? 2) See why the psychiatrist is not signing the detention form 3) Can your son come stay with you or 3) wait and see what happens. Let’s maybe look at the options. Yes - I’ve been there - something happened and we kept my son out of jail and on probation, finally got him on meds and housed. Hang in there. Many of us have been where you are. Is my son’s issues resolved - no it is ongoing.
I’m so sorry my heart goes out to you
My heart goes out to you, even if you lived near, the situation would be the same.
My son has a studio in our house, when he is on his meds, one shot a month, he is more normal. That was court ordered and monitored for 2 years. Because of the side effects caused by the medication, he now has refused the shots. So he is managing, but you can see a difference in his personality…Been a roller coaster since 2012.
One dat at a time.
No housing can keep people againts their will. So unless he cooperates there is no much you can do, even with guardianship. Maybe in the streets he will get into some sort of trouble and be sent to a mental facility by court order. If there is a homeless outreach organization you can talk to them and give them a picture of your son, and they may reach out to him on a regular bases.