Family and Caregiver Schizophrenia Discussion Forum

Daughter of SZ, drowning in life

My dad is dieing at a slow and painful rate. Everytime I call him, it’s so painful for both of us. And it my forefront, i’m in my last semester of full-time nursing school. Working full-time. Children. Fiance. House. Bills.

My day:
4a Wake up
6:30a-3p Work
3:30p-7p Class
7:30p-12a Library
1a Sleep

Some days I dont see my kids or my partner in crime. I;m running myself so thin. I feel guilty for bieng in school and for just not bieng the mom and partner i want to be. Also, I’m going to be a nurse, but I can’t even help my own father, there is something that sickens me about that.


oh and… do nurses ever get to eat, sleep, or go to the bathroom? I seriously have not met many who have been able to accomplish these three things well.


It’s time for Virtual moms to step in.:smile: I’m so sorry to hear about your dad’s decline in health. That has nothing to do with you or your career. You’re tired and it’s the last semester. I know you realize this but I sure hope you are doing some deep belly breaths in those few minutes where you can find them.
You must have tremendous support from your partner and children but seriously I hope you can get more rest soon.


I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. Is there any way you can cut down on work hours until you finish your semester? Once you’ve graduated you’ll be able to pick up more hours. You are so close! Keep your eyes on the finish line.

I don’t think anyone working in healthcare gets breaks unless they work in private practice. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:


Nurses seem to take a lot of burden of responsibility. It goes with the helping, passionate, loving, healer you naturally are.

You cannot control all the outcomes. Life and death are the revolving natural occurances…many each and every day.

Please, always remind yourself, you help those you can, and bless the ones you cannot. Although we wish for more power and control, we simply don’t have it. Nurse or not, we are not God.

Hang in there with your busy schedule, glad to hear the school part is neatly finished.


I love this! Thank you for sharing. Belly breaths will help you get to sleep fast also. Be well! Breath deep.

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