For the sake of this post I will call this friend Andrew.
This old friend of mine who I have been friends with for going on 12 years has gone through so much. He was often teased growing up because he could not express himself. He has always had a habit of cracking jokes to relieve awkward tension and has assumed he has powers for years. He is very paranoid of other people and assumes most people hate him or are out to get him. Most people aren’t aware of how bad this is as I am and most people who know him, including his own parents, seem oblivious to the fact that he is suffering from schizophrenia or schizotypal disorder. Almost everything lines up perfectly with the latter personality disorder.
He hasn’t been able to hold a job for years and habitually smokes marijuana, more than anybody that I know as I know people who smoke it for medicinal reasons. Whenever he smokes this he becomes increasingly more paranoid and suspicious of others. He has been trying to get lawyers involved to sue the health care system where I live as he claims they refuse to give him surgery for a physical disability that he claims that he has that has been preventing him from being normal. I know deep down that he has fixated on this disability, while showing no signs of having one, to take away from the fact that he is severely mentally unwell. He spends countless hours on the internet sending people hundreds of messages through Facebook and reading conspiracy theories as well as watching war based movies. He is very fixated on swords and the way that things used to be when justice and revenge were legal. It is all quite alarming.
The reason why I’m making this post is because he has turned on each and every one of my friends, which were once his friends. He is constantly sending us messages claiming we’re evil, selfish or weak to each other, behind each others back. Three days ago he messaged me going on about how he loves me and how he can only trust me and that our other friends are cowards. Following this he began to go on a grandiose self-righteous rant about how humanity has failed and only he is capable of helping it, and that he will kill whoever he needs to and start an army. He stated several times how he wants to wipe people out.
I tried to communicate with him and talk some sense into him but he barely acknowledges anything that I say and types paragraph after paragraph. He believes that his bullying and struggle has shaped his perspective greatly and that he is above everybody else. Anyways, me and my other friend, the only two people who he associates with as he’s too afraid to leave his apartment and has pushed mostly everybody away from him, made the decision to block him from Facebook and remove him from our lives after this barrage of threats and severely paranoid behavior. We no longer trust him.
His parents won’t help him, and he hasn’t done anything yet so I know for a fact that the police where I live will do nothing. If they approach him he will most likely know that me or my friend are responsible.
I live very close to this guy, though he doesn’t know exactly where I live but he has a rough idea. I’ve moved locations frequently in the past year due to work and my own issues. I have to admit that there are times where I have been looking over my shoulder lately. I know that he hates me now and assumes that I betrayed him, as he messaged an old friend in a rant yesterday about how me and my other friend are now his mortal enemies and that he will “wash his hands of all of us”.
Even though he has made such large statements, this isn’t the first time. He has been physically and mentally bullied by people in the past and reacted in a similar way, though I fear with age that he’s reaching more of a breaking point. He lives alone and can barely survive as his parents threw him out of their house after he punched his Dad in the face and has made their lives a living hell. When I blocked him from Facebook I told him clearly that he is stressing me out and in the nicest way possible I told him that I’m taking time for myself and that I cannot handle to be apart of drama anymore and that he has been obsessing over me.
I know that he fears going outside or interacting with others. For this reason I don’t fear for my own life or anything, as he has had a tendency of begging for forgiveness. I mean, even though he is a friend, he has asked out all of my ex-girlfriends, harassed the ex girlfriends of other friends and then blamed it on liquor that he drank, which we believed as we’ve always viewed him as rather innocent and docile. He has repeatedly had massive paranoid delusions about people and often stands in the mirror pumping up his muscles and swinging katana swords claiming he is good at combat, when he is in fact extremely skinny and fragile.
I suffer from Bipolar Type II myself and have dealt with far more abuse than most of my friends so I know that I can relate to him, but at the same time for this reason I need to avoid him for my own mental health. Communicating with him has made me a little manic lately and I just couldn’t handle it anymore.
Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated, even if somebody can relate. Thank you so much.