Hi. New to the site, and would really appreciate if anyone has any experience either living in a group home or having a loved one in one. Here’s some backstory-
I’m the step mom of 3 boys -well, 23, 21,and19, so not so much boys anymore. I’ve been a married to their father for 13 years, so I’m very much attached. I have paranoid scz on my bio dad’s side. I kinda know what the symptoms and behavior looks like. For years, since he was about 10 my youngest had some worrying traits- daytime “nightmares” that were pretty damn scary, and he accused me of feeding him estrogen to “make him a girl” for about a year. I told my hubby about my concerns. He didn’t believe me. The boys bio mom (don’t get me started on THAT one! Lol ) told the boy that he had her bipolar disorder, and even admits to encouraging him to smoke pot for the symptoms. (Yeah. Really). So, fast forward, the boy is caught numerous times high or even smoking pot at the high school. It’s a small town, so he gets a lecture from the cop and my hubby gets a call to pick him up. During this time, he becomes increasingly paranoid, and seems able to function less and less in everyday life. Becomes angry in outbursts and develops the “flat effect”. Finally he has a complete break, and is hospitalized. The first time he’s there, the only diagnosis is a personality disorder. We get no info, no help or direction, and nobody seems to have the time to explain what’s going on. The second involuntary hospitalization, he is diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. It makes more sense. While there, some doctor mentions that there is a group facility nearby our home. I have researched schizophrenia extensively, asked questions of every dr, pdoc, therapist I could get my hands on. I know that there are good places for people to live, usually only months at a time, but it seems more of a last resort or court mandated arrangement than voluntary. The boy is for some reason completely set on the idea of living in a group home for the rest of his life. I know it’s a lot to take in, and probably way too much info for the question , but does anyone have any insight? Into what kind of places they are, why he insists that’s where he wants to be? Anything is very much appreciated. Thanks!!