Family and Caregiver Schizophrenia Discussion Forum

Help With SO wanting to leave


I am new to the group and looking for advice. My SO keeps having thoughts that I am cheating, lying, hiding something, etc. My SO has given up hope that things can become easier and that he can have a relationship with me. That he can get help, that I won’t ever leave him. We have loved each other for a long time, but it doesn’t seem to be enough anymore for him. I keep supporting him the best way I know how, but the comments regarding us not being what he wants on the “bad days” are starting to crush me. He wants to leave but I don’t want him to give up on everything we have talked about. I keep letting him know he isn’t alone, I’ll do whatever I can for him. I don’t know what to do to continue supporting him or if I am only making things worse.

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It sounds as if you are really struggling with this. Maybe you can discuss with them that this is a very difficult disease for everyone involved. No one has an easy time of it from the patient to the loved ones of the patient.

Welcome to the group. I find a lot of help in this forum to share our frustrations, medication options for our loved ones, and the feeling of love and support here. You are not alone. :heart:


His negative symptoms are getting worse by the night, and when he has the recovery days as he calls them, they really take a toll on him, being very confused and all over the place, losing the time causes great conflict within him. Everything I do feels at times completely wrong. Finding money for insurance or to pay for proper care is a challenge at the moment and it needed to happen months ago. And the process to get a support team and for the meds to have an effect can be very daunting and hopeless in his opinion. I’m not sure what to do.

Is he willing to see a doctor or go to the hospital? Welcome and sorry you are here but you will find a great group with a lot of info and support here.

He is; however, the cost of the sessions and meds are too much for out of pocket at the moment…