I am American. I live in Ohio. He was in a hospital in a county north of us, in our state. I was upset that he wasn’t in the closer hospital to us, but there is only one hospital in our county with behavioral health services. It was not unusual for there not to be enough beds and then they would send patients to the nearest other hospital that could take them. At the time it would scare me because I never miss a visitation and I am not a confident driver. The visitation hours for behavioral health are very structured and short. I always felt like I was being treated like a criminal. For example, in the rest of the hospital you can basically visit your loved one any time and you could visit in pairs or a reasonable amount of visitors, just so that you didn’t disturb other patients. In the behavioral health unit you could only visit I believe 2 hours a day. You could only visit alone, so I would have to leave if another family member wanted to visit. We could never have my husband and I with him for example. I had to get a locker and lock up my purse. You could not take anything in with you. All food had to be sealed. At the hospital further from us, 2 of us could visit. We could play cards or have a conversation. I could take my purse in. He was also at a state hospital. That was very scary to me. He was sent there by the court when he was not showing sufficient improvement in our hospital. I didn’t understand what was happening and it was very traumatic. He improved there almost immediately. They knew what they were doing - they were nice, but they got him taking his meds and showering. I could take anything there for us to eat - I could pick up a pizza or whatever we wanted. Different rules in different hospitals. It sounds like you have been through so much. You are staying strong and I am glad also that your younger son lives with you. It is frightening for the siblings and there is definitely a grief that takes place. My younger son became seriously depressed for about the last 2 years now. He is doing better, but I think it was very traumatic for him. I think he (and secretly me) were terrified he might become ill also. The FIRST program was supposed to have family counseling, because we needed it, but they didn’t really. Sorry for rambling on so much, I never talk to anyone this much about all of this. We have had a psychiatric evaluation done at home on my son a few times. The local police or paramedics can do it. If they feel the person is a threat to themselves or others, they will force them to the hospital. It is hard to get that to happen, and it is a last resort, but when my son quit talking they did take him. He is very gentle, he identifies as female, and perhaps because of this we have never had violence or aggression. I am so thankful for that, as you know, sometimes the police do not react reasonably to the mentally ill that are aggressive, at least in my country. Is there a way to have an evaluation done at your home? Forcing them into care is frightening and painful, but in our case he was catatonic and we knew we had no choice. Things are not perfect, he is depressed and going through a rough patch, but we have him back. I will keep you in my prayers. I can tell you are loving and strong. You will get through this.