I like to know what how to remove my Fiancee from my life. I have known her for 9 months now and lives with me. When we met she was probably homeless (she claims she is a millionaire, but can never share money with a man because that make him a pimp)). From some information I have and my personal observations she is probably has schizophrenia plus alcohol abuse. When she drinks she behaves in aggregated erratic state, talks out loud to the spirits, has delusions, preaches LOUDLY for hours, has no concept of peoples boundaries (or need for sleep), and proclaims she is the truth and the light and Love and has self-centered visions of grandeur. These rants will go on for 15 hours or so until she sleeps and will repeat. Any form of communication during this time is impossible.
She did drink sparingly since we were together but communication was possible and manageable. She did stop drinking for 6 weeks after she binged for 7 days (she said it was the first time in 20 years) and she had big personality change and was more serine and functional. Even in this sober state she could never admit she has any issues. Mainly from the philosophy that we are all part of the divine spirit and therefore perfect.
She a new age spiritualist i.e tarot, tantra, âI amâ, heal yourself, Dyer, atolle, opra, Shankar, Lemaorin, Chrystals, Goddess worship(herself that is), change your DNA, but interprets many of the new age spiritualists in an unusual way. She also believes she is one of that 5 sentient beings that are spiritually changing the world so she is always drained from doing no work at all, in addition to believing she is beyond all the spiritual leaders and they are all her students. Even in a sober state she refers to herself as âweâ not I, proclaims that all Doctors are liars and all medicine is no good and she can heal herself of everything. So having her seek any treatment voluntarily is not going to be possible.
She started drinking again two months ago. In addition to her normal erratic state she has become verbally abusive, has more delusions, now with paranoia and wrecked her car twice. She would create the most absurd and obscene accusations about how I was the problem and how I am killing everyone around me, abusing her, etcâŚ
I have tried to cope with this by putting in earplugs and listening to mediation music a full volume and telling myself not to engage in discussion with her in her self proclaimed âDeepâ state and not to get angry at what she says. This does help me but it is isolating me.
I am a recovered Alcoholic myself with ADD and I have helped some recover, and been around many with mental issues. In many cases they can at least can acknowledge or recognized their behavior while drinking (not necessarily accepting it, but at least knows it exists. In her case she cannot acknowledge physical evidence, videos, or the reaction of others to her.
At this point I can not longer have her around me. She is impacting my ability to do my job, I canât have my children come over and be exposed to the never ending loud preaching and crazy activity and I cannot no longer operate on almost no sleep. She actually met my daughter at the door crying and told I was abusing her, all of which is a delusion. She also bursts into the neighbors house uninvited giving speeches about evils of anal sex and fucking is not love etc etc.
At the moment we had to leave my townhouse while it is being repaired and we have been ask to leave two places already because of her behavior and I donât know how long we can stay at our current location. I am running out of money to even find a place to stay.
I checked the emergency mental services in LA and they said that can come out to evaluate her but cannot commit unless she is a danger to herself or other. and all treatment will have to be voluntarily. I just donât know how to get her out. Her family has disowned her.
