It’s been 2 years or more since we broke up because he was diagnosed with schizophrenia paranoia, his delusions all purgatory. Well, I never forgot about him, because he was my everything and we were engaged.
Well, we started texting this last week , and I met him at a park , but everything was he is God, everyone bullies him, everyone makes fun of him, and how he made Ozzy Osbourne die and he was texting Sharon Osborne the day before …plus saying my sister touched his penis. Obviously none of this happened.
My heart BREAKS for him. His mom, Dad and Aunt know he was diagnosed with schizophrenia, and we all had him hospitalized years ago, and he threw his meds out , but to this day , they all keep him in a bubble , only doing things with them …I am so sad for him. If they would be honest with him , I know he would get the shot or get back on medication.
His texts go from him telling me I’m beautiful, to completely ignoring me … I love this man with all my heart , I am so sad for him. But I can see he has gotten so much worse in 2 years.
it is difficult to see a person you love going down the hill in steady decline. It hurts. But pls don’t judge what his family is doing. It is a difficult illness to handle. After all you walked out, they stayed.
I’d like you to know I didn’t leave him . I stayed and loved him and gave everything I had for over 2years. I got him into the hospital, his parents never even went to visit him. I was the scapegoat. When he signed himself out , he threw the medication away. He had purgatory delusions constantly, I had children …I told him he needed to take the meds , that he was sick, HE LEFT ME and moved back home with Mom and Dad
I wish there was a simple situation. You must place your children as a priority and you tried very hard to help him make his life with you. People who love people living with schizophrenia end up having to deal with difficult decisions and then have to live with those decisions.
Sadly there are no magic words, we can’t love them well, we all just try to listen for opportunities and support possibilities.
I’d do anything for him, to get him to trust me and believe me and get medicated. It kills me seeing him deteriorate…and living in such paranoia thinking all these horrible things happened to him. .
Please don’t let anyone make you feel bad for “walking out”. You didn’t walk out, you did everything you could to help and the illness made it impossible to do more.
Also, as as a child of a parent who continued to allow a severely mentally ill person around, I can tell you that prioritizing your kids is absolutely the right thing to do. If someone is unable to recognize they need help and unwilling to take medication you must prioritize the well-being of your kids - they don’t have the ability to leave.
