I had posted on the old forum several months ago and never got the chance to thank all of the supportive people who gave me advice and encouragement.
I need it again.
I am taking care of my older sister. Even though my dad is her payee, they are both living with me and I support them both. My sister has a shopping problem that we’ve been trying to address over the last year. I thought we were doing well but have recently found out that she has a lot more debt than originally thought. She opened credit cards without anyone’s knowledge and now as 30K in debt. When asked her what she plans to do about it she said “nothing”. She has creditors coming after her, late fees, and now some fraud charges. It’s so bad that she actually has my dad thinking that he needs to sell his car and cash in some of his retirement to pay off her debt.
The problem I have is that she doesn’t think she’s done anything wrong. She says it’s my Dad’s fault for allowing her spending to get out of hand. She says it’s my fault for allowing her to open credit card accounts and she say’s it’s the credit card company’s fault for issuing her credit. She is “mentally disabled” and is not responsible for any of it.
I’ve had enough. If she cared and wanted to do something about it I would help her, but she thinks that the rest of us should pay off her debt because we allowed her to accrue it. I told her that if she can’t be responsible for her own actions then she needs to move out. She has opted to move out.
I love her, she is my sister, but she has a shopping addiction and refuses to acknowledge it or get help.
I don’t want to kick her out, but don’t feel that I have any other option since she truly feels that the rest of us are at fault.
Did I do the right thing? What other choices do I have?
Thank you for listening. I’m so emotionally drained right now that I can’t even think straight.