Living alone or in a foster home?


#1

My son, who’s 38 years old with schizophrenia has been living on his own apartment for the last 3 years. He is about 3 blocks from my house, so I get to see him almost everyday, which is very hard sometimes, since I worked all day, but I have to stop every morning to leave him hot breakfast and lunch, than I stopped every evening to make sure he takes his meds. Still, I don’t see any improvement, besides he’s basically destroying his apartment… braking windows, making huge holes in the walls and I assumed is because he’ so lonely, doing absolutely nothing, he doesn’t want a TV or Computer, and rarely he listens to an old radio he has. My question is: Should I let him keep living on his own or find him a good foster home? His rent is so high, his SSI is only for the rent, I’ll have to cover all other expenses, besides, I feel so tired with daily routine, even weekends I have to cook for him, everyday have to feed him and take him a pack of cigarretes, otherwise he won’t have control of none of that.
I won’t be for him for ever, so mind as well, find him a good place where he could live and I can still visit him once or twice a week, I just feel bad, that he’ll be living with strangers, not family
Suggestions? He’s my only son, my husband is not his father and he had lived with us; but is very difficult to adjust. Please help me!


#2

Hello,
Welcome to the forum. Do you know what options are available for your son? It can be very trying on yourself, not to speak of the financial burden. Call a help center or social services, they may be able to help direct you to the appropriate advocate.
Take care, AnnieNorCal