My husband and I have been married for almost two years and we have been together for over five now. He was not diagnosed as schizophrenic until recently and the psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, social worker, and MD have yet to determine if its schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, and if it is if its bipolar type or not. He was hospitalized once so far about two weeks ago. He was in there for three days, which should have been longer. When your husband looks at you and says “why don’t you want me to come home?” and is about in tears its hard to refuse. We are both 30 so they said schizophrenia is very unlikely to start at 30 and the more we started talking about his young adult life and everything else things started fitting in. I can’t believe it went this long without me noticing and sometimes I am angry that I didn’t see it before now. I wish I could have gotten him help before now, maybe it wouldn’t be so bad.
Two nights ago his step dad and I finally convinced him to go to the hospital and let the doctor check him out. He got there and was okay and said he would do what the doctor said he should do. Then when they wanted to admit him he threw a fit, did not want to be admitted. He isn’t a danger to himself or others so he wasn’t forced to stay. I sat in the hospital waiting room for 5 hours that night, trying to convince him to go in and get the help he needed. I tried to be stubborn and told him that I wasn’t leaving until he saw a psychiatrist. It didn’t work. He doesn’t have an appointment until July 7th but every day its getting tremendously worse. I can’t get him in before that, the only way the psychiatrist will see him is if he is admitted into the hospital.
I talk to his brother and his mom and step dad daily, figuring if we are on the same page then maybe my husband would see it and get help or agree to see the doctors. His brother mentioned to me today that he had told him last night that he wasn’t taking his meds and “don’t tell” is what he said. I have watched him take them, insisted he take them in front of me, and he has been. I don’t know if he is pulling something over on me, or if he doesn’t remember taking the meds or what.
Last night he didn’t sleep at all. He paced back and forth in the hall way. He apparently read an article on the internet about this conspiracy on the CIA using pyschotronic torture to get people to do things for them. He feels that the CIA or some other agency has talked to our neighbors (like 5 different houses) and convinced them to take turns trying to convince him that he is crazy. He says this is exactly how he feels and what he thinks happening to him.
I don’t know what to do, I don’t know what to say. I went to work today (my job is very relaxed, I work for my parents in our own family business) because I could not stay at home and listen to it one more second. I need advice.