My son has not showered in about a year and a half, he has so much plaque build up on his teeth, that I am sure he will lose many of them soon. His fingernails can grow to great lengths before falling off, and what used to be dreads in his unwashed hair, have now been folded into some type of knots, which I know must hurt his head when he sleeps, and I think add to the dull aches he feels around his eyes at times. At some point, his lack of hygiene I’m sure, will begin to cause him pain, and he will need to seek medical attention.
He is currently not taking his meds and I think three weeks is the longest he has ever taken them consecutively.He is nineteen. He does not smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, and smokes pot when he manages to get his hands on a few bucks, which is only seldomly. What he does crave is music and trips to grocery stores so he can buy his own food. He is an amazing musician and I have started taking guitar lessons to reach him. This is important to him, so we go weekly, so he can see my progress. Playing together brings us closer. I also take him shopping about 3-4 times a week. He loves buying his food and sorting through the aisles reading labels.
He does express anger towards me and his father. His dislike of us is obvious. There is a lot of manipulation going on. He talks bad about his dad, and when I defend him, gets mad at me. I think he does the same with his dad when I’m not around. We have catered to him his whole life because of the peculiarities, the whole family has, actually.
I have learned that talking to him about his hygiene just makes things worse. He longs for attention from girls, but that’s not happening because of many factors, and I’m sure his appearance is one of them. But he doesn’t see it. It is so hard to watch him suffer.
Is there hope that these negative symptoms can improve over time? I think he will comply at some point with medication, but we are trying to be as patient as possible in the meantime.