Hi, I need your advice please. I am sorry, I apologize in advance if you’ll find some of what I share with you here repeated from various posts of mine but I need to write you a brief background if you can kindly give me few minutes of your time.
My questions: now almost THREE months have passed since my visit and I am still here with my afflicted sister for one more WEEK … I still do not have sufficient time to talk to my afflicted sister much because the moment I speak, she leaves to her room & locks it, unless I have more minutes while she’s preparing food/tea in the kitchen so I grab that chance to say a few words to her before she leaves to her room. One of the pressing issues now that I need your advice on is that I have only ONE week left for my visit and what I really want to tell my sister, the purpose of my visit “I’m visiting you to help you get out from this place and I will help you in every way I can and try to give you a better livable situation in my home”. I’m running out of time and how would I know I have her trust as she refuses to even communicate with me in any way, e.g. writing response in a note or anything if she can’t speak… I’ve been trying everyday for almost 3 months, but then what? The 3 months visit is almost up and she doesn’t communicate back to me in anyway. After the visit, I can live guilt-free that I’ve done my part & tried? Because I’ve been visiting her every year for the past 6 years because I was able to and I had the means but maybe in 2019 I might reallocate somewhere far where I cannot visit for the 1st few years…
Brief background: My afflicted diagnosed unmedicated sister went through a lot of stress & oppression from those who didn’t understand her illness, they lock the main house exit door and can permit her to leave the house if she’s accompanied by them because of harm they believe she’s done many times out the house in the past and that’s the way they think they are protecting her (I was away in another country where I live with my husband) but anyways now during my visit I can see that even that I keep the door key on it at all times, she doesn’t come near it as her illness progressed . I feel that for me it’s obvious that her illness got worse because of those who didn’t understand her and the way she got treated but they just didn’t understand her illness and they thought they were doing their best but she lives with them and she isolated from them then she started to isolate from everyone else (not going out of house/room for the past two years!). Another problem is that she doesn’t speak and only locks herself in her room in which she doesn’t have phone/mobile/tv nor anything to connect her with the outside world (refuses the mobile phones I tried to give her) so I wouldn’t even know if she wants to speak up her mind and evaluate traveling/moving with me (the family believe that if my sister needed anything she’d ask them but she hasn’t spoken a word in two years and my research on alogia and other symptoms tells me she won’t ask for anything even if it was urgent/important matters for herself) She only eats, she’s keeping herself clean and is under a roof with family (they have their limitations too) but I don’t see any other positives from her current living situation.