I don’t know what else to do I have no one to talk to. My husband has been in a psychosis state for almost 3 weeks now. He is seeing shadow people and invisible people, he packed a bag and moved out claiming that I have been having sex with all these different men,(which I have not) when we FaceTime he says that I’m not real and says I’m having sex while I’m talking to him. I was out shopping today and he called me then told me that I wasn’t in a store that it was all fake. He is always taking pictures of me when we FaceTime he says I have 2 mouths 1that I talk to him with and the other one I’m doing sex things with. He has told me that I have another man hiding in our bedroom that he has seen. He thinks that all our streaming services tell him what I’m doing and can he can hear me doing things through the tv. He now says he no longer wants to be with me and to consider our marriage over. I keep telling him that it’s not true it’s all fake but he won’t listen,because all I do is lie to him. I try to get him to the hospital and get back on his meds but he claims he doesn’t need them he’s fine. How do I get him to believe me and not the fake world
Hi Susan72070, welcome to the forum. I wish there was a way that you could “get him to believe” you. The fake world is as real to your husband as the real world is to you. Sadly, when we try to convince our family members that what they are experiencing is not real, doing so just creates a bigger wall and they trust us even less.
Has he threatened to hurt you or himself?
Enter “Dr Amador” “Leap” and “anosognosia” into the search box on the upper right. There are many threads with suggestions of books and videos that can help you over the long term. I am so sorry to not have better news. hope
Hope thank you for answering. Yes he has had many thoughts of suicide and has tried before a couple of times.i will definitely look into what you suggested and I have my first nami meeting tomorrow
Thank you for sharing here glad you found this forum and a Nami meeting ,I’m sorry for what you are experiencing right now ,with him away at the moment its a good time for self care and support for you!
I do hope he can return to his meds soon 
Hi Susan, so sorry that you and your husband are going through this. I am in a similar situation with my wife. I had so much hope that her psychosis would be temporary (a month, maybe two) but it has been over two years with no hint of recovery in sight.
The below responses you received are, unfortunately, consistent with my two years experience in supporting my wife and with learnings from others. Namely, that a person with psychosis truly believes what they are experiencing; and, that pushing back is not helpful to you or to your husband.
The LEAP technique may useful (Dr. Amador) as a communication approach with your husband. That said, it still has its limits. For example, after two years my wife today has a very difficult time talking so she mostly stays quiet. This makes LEAP difficult since the first step with LEAP is to listen. Here is the URL for Dr. Amador’s website: Free LEAP Videos: Dr. Amador on Anosognosia - LEAP Institute
The first months of psychosis is very tough. Filled with uncertainty, pain, and fear. However, you will grow in your strength and in your understanding (both of the condition and of your ability to handle things). You’ll start to know your husband differently from the person you once knew; and, you’ll start to know yourself and how much you can take. You’ll start to better understand your own limits.
Please reach out to support groups and you absolutely need to find someone to talk with. So important. You also will need an escape or outlet to get you and your mind away from the energy sapping grind that is caregiving for a loved one who is dealing with psychosis.
Maybe another piece of good news is that your husband’s thinking (what he says, believes and does) may change over time. Hopefully for the better versus his current state. For example, today he believes you are cheating on him. Over time this feeling MAY subside. For example, initially my wife thought authorities were watching her, bugging our house, sending crude messages and images over her phone (which she through out of the window when she was driving her car). Two years later she is able to look back and say I know that this wasn’t true. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t think other things but it shows that there is an evolution of thinking and beliefs over time. Some things are easier to deal with than others. I hope for you that your husband stops believing that you are cheating on him.
People will always advise you to care for yourself. At first you may think, how can I possibly think about myself when my husband is going through all this. Trust me, it is critical. Caring for someone (especially a life partner) can be a very long, hard and endless road to travel. You’ll need every bit of energy and support that you can muster to continue this journey.
Enough rambling from me. Again, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. You are stronger than you may realize. We are here to support but, like anything, you’ll be charged with doing the heavy lifting so finding ways to stay strong is vital. Wishing you peace and strength. Kevin
This is very important. I believe that delusions frequently are the manifestations of the kinds of fears and insecurities all of us have, but become tangible and real to the person experiencing psychosis. The fear and insecurities of cognitively “normal” people can change, mellow or disappear over time and it’s no different with people suffering from SZ. Age plays a role, but most important is whether the loved one is taking medication and that medication actually is sufficient to address the delusions and psychosis.
Well I went to see my husband and talk to him last night and I could tell that he is coming out of his psychosis state, and he is doing a lot better even today.
So glad to hear he’s doing better. My adult son has sz. I find a lot of guidance and Support From going to Alanon/ my son stopped his meds and started using drugs-
Well that did not last long he is right back into his fake world again
So sorry, fake to us, and so very real to them.
I completely understand what you are going thru and can emphasize with you completely. My Husband over the years has completely separated me from anyone and everyone, I stopped communicating with everyone for fear that he would hurt/accuse/cause legal issues to people that loved and cared about me. He has steadily gotten worse since Covid 19 and gas accused me of cheating/poisoning/ stealing/beating him) anything that could and would make me the crazy and bad person, and I have absolutely no one to talk to, vent to and feel like im the one that will eventually crack. I have learned over the years that a person can take a lot but there are definitely limitations, and that no matter how much you love someone, if they dont want help, there is nothing you can do, no amount of coaxing/ultimatums/threats will help. Once again im just ranting and not being helpful in any way. I understand how alkne you feel and hope that there is someone you can turn to fir understanding and support.