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15 Ways to Get Someone out of Your Head
Expert tips to manage your frustration and get past toxic thinking.

Have you ever found that you just can’t stop thinking about someone—what they did or said, and how bewildered or hurt you were by their actions? When someone hurts us, our children, or someone we love; gossips behind our back; or simply acts crazy in ways that confound us, we can get stuck thinking about it for hours or days. We’re washing dishes, driving, or walking the dogs and we can’t stop thinking about how unkind, untrue and self-centered the things that person said were. Their image, their words, keep resurfacing. Five hours, five days, five weeks later, there they are—we see their face in front of us, even if we haven’t seen them in all that time.

(Just to be clear, I’m not addressing how we deal with trauma or abuse here – situations which require professional help and intervention – I’m talking about the day-to-day interactions we have with others that leave us mentally sputtering.)

It’s a bit uncanny… number 8 is extremely timely for me today… almost… Ponderable. :confused:

Thank you for posting this.

Printing this one up—thanks!

For me it seems that if someone else is causing my distress the best thing for me is to calmly but firmly tell them off.

I needed this. Thanks!