Hi, I’m new here. My elderly mother has paranoid sz, unmedicated, and is obsessed with me. She is so emotionally abusive and toxic that I really don’t want anything to do with her. I never tell her my contact information after I move, but she hires an investigator to find me. She’s shown up unannounced, and the visits keep getting worse and worse. I’ve refused to let her in the house. I’ve tried to tell her I don’t want to see her. Once again she’s “threatening” to come visit me, and I’m practically hyperventilating. I don’t know what to do.
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Hi Waffles, I’m also new here, and I don’t have the answers, but I have a family member with SZ as well.
I don’t know how to successfully keep her away, but I can tell you to stick with your instinct. She sounds dangerous, which you do not deserve. Don’t doubt yourself. Go zero contact.
Have you truly gone zero contact? How do you know that she is threatening to come visit you, and how do you know that she has hired investigators? You should have her blocked on your phone and blocked in all manners of possible contact to you.
Breathe. Think about something else for a while. Focus on a topic for a while that has nothing to do with her or the situation, then come back and address the issue with a sound, sane mind.
Best of luck.
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I am sorry you are going through this @Waffles . If she is abusive to you, you can get a restraining order at your local court house, and then call the police if she shows up at your home. I found the police to be helpful during my past in dealing with threats from my loved one when she was unmedicated for schizophrenia. Good luck.
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So sorry you are going through this, mom’s are supposed to be your “rock”, the person you can depend on. I hope you have a sibling or other family member that is around to lend some support.
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