It is so hard, but just try to be strong for him. I know easier said than done. So sad for them and for us.
Heâs working at a store just down the road. Probably a 30 minute walk. I hope he succeeds with this. Heâs worked in grocery stores before at night but was paranoid that his co-worker was going to harm him. I think now on meds he may do ok AND it gets him out of going to the groups that his therapist said he had to go to unless work was a conflict. The groups are something he really didnât want to go to.
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Hi DianeR. Is this the first time your son has been on meds? If so, how long was he ill before recently going on them?
Yes this is first anti-psychotic meds. We tried Chinese herbs which worked a little bit it seemed. Looking back I can see signs 8 years ago. He thought I had been a terrible mother, forced him to play sports⌠mostly delusional thinking. His first full break was almost 2 years ago now.
Well then this is pretty astounding that your son went off on his own, got a job, and worked an 8 hour shift. What?
It was only last month that you had all those cops at your house. Iâm just shocked, in a very happy for you way.
Your sonâs story could be an example of how a person can have a pretty long period of psychosis before treatment, and still have a positive outcome.
I so hope your son can stay the course.
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Thank you. Iâm hoping so too. The meds for sure helped and no more pot or drinking. And not wanting to live with me is incentive I think. They also talked about goals in group at the hospital and since then it has been to work and get a place of his own. He is no way by far what we see as ânormalâ but heâs trying pretty hard. Itâs been a month and 3 weeks since my lovely time with all the police! And that is how long heâs been on meds.
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That is so great! Makes me smile really big!
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Up on computer since 3 am
feel like I am self-destructing a little
So much to worry about and try to find solutions
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I am doing the same thing right now, up since 2:45 and itâs 4:27 now. Have to go to work tomorrow⌠I am often up at 3am or so. I just cannot figure out how to arrange/rearrange living spaces to better suit my daughterâs mental illness, my husbandâs alcoholism, my tenantsâ wishes and my own needs. Ugh. My own needs always seem to be last, and why oh why canât I sleep?! So dreadfully tired.
I understand the feeling of self-destructing. Wish we could meet at an all night diner and eat and talk. A hug from someone who gets it would be nice. I am sending you a virtual hug, and I hope your worry lessens.
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Hugs back
i find out what is wrong with my motherâs chest after her MRI this lunch
i donât know if they will find post op pulmonary embolism, post op chest infection or a new thing like lung cancer
75 year old life long smoker
run over 7 weeks ago and criminally uncared for by a transport for disabled back to hospital for a cast check
she had open tib fib with plates and screws⌠and then cracked bruised ribs so she couldnât move for 4 - 5 weeks basically half of that down to a transfer team whom she is sueing
Up all night also worrying about my sister and alcohol related brain damage
perhaps Wernicks Korsakoff perhaps not
she is 39 and has wanted to die for the last 5 years
sorry for your troubles
all sounds as my family
i lost a schizophrnenic brother after 12 years of steady deterioration treatment resistant in the extreme
and i myself am schizophrnic, 12 years well, but had a very poor prognosis before that and was classed as severe
my husband is autistic and works and an only child who doesnât understand family problems
he badmouths my brother all the time, she seems to be against him
Iâm also autistic and canât process social skills normally
Wish I logged on at 3am and joined you both, I was up, mind just wouldnât stop, we keep so many balls in the airâŚ
Not a great weekend. My son has been asking me to purchase a lot of random things for him recently. It all stems from his delusions, and his thinking that he requires stuff to impress the spies. And he has been kicking and punching the front door (from the inside), and yelling at âthemâ to âef-offâ and âshut upâ, and expressing anger.
Yesterday he started in on me about how I am coercing him to take his meds, and that I shouldnât do that.
I know how much I do for him, how much of my own money is spent on him, how much of my free time goes to him - and I guess when he starts in on me I just feel so resentful. I left without blowing up at him tho.
On another note: caught 2 kittens. They are now in a large kennel in my basement, awaiting an intake appointment at the no-kill shelter.
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Iâm sorry, this is so unfair. They just donât seem to acknowledge or appreciate the time we spend taking care of them financially and emotionally. Itâs so frustrating. Iâm glad you walked away that is probably the best thing to do. My friend has a mentally challenged son (now 30 I think) she says at times he will yell at her. She leaves the house as well. At least, however, when she returns sometimes she gets a somewhat of an apology.
Glad you got more cats for the no-kill shelter. How many have you kept?
All the adults are being neutered and returned to the neighborhood. I occasionally see the 2 males, and the 2 females (one which is the mother of the litter, and the other her kitten from last Fall) come to visit regularly, but wonât come close enough to be petted. They know my schedule tho!
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I was wondering, I just saw the spay tattoo on my friendâs rescue - does your vet do the spay tattoo on the females?
Yes they do, and they also âtipâ the left ear (snip off a piece)
I have 2 cats of my own already, as well as 2 dogs. My son does like to see these cats, so I am leaving them in his neighborhood.
Iâm going to bring a few things for him to use to entice them to play, in hopes they might eventually become social enough to pet.
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I did not know about the ear tipping - thanks for the information!
I watched a Netflix movie last night called âBrain on Fireâ, based on an autobiography. Although the ending wasnât the same ending my son had, there was a lot that rang true. Somebody did their research.
My takeaway from the film was that family members and doctors have to be extremely careful when diagnosing, especially in the beginning, and especially if there is no prodromal phase.
If you decide to watch it, here is my disclaimer. It wonât win any Best Picture or Best Acting Awards. It was just interesting, on a few different levels.
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