Wife has a meltdown if I'm mentioned

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So as I’ve mentioned in previous posts here, my wife has been in psychosis for over 2 months now, and it’ll be 2 months this Monday since I’ll have heard from her.
She’s on 25mg of quetiapine as she hasn’t gone to her second psychiatrist appointment yet and I’ve been told she’s gotten calmer and isn’t talking about her delusions as much. We’re both currently in two different countries however I communicate with her family often. One delusion she had was her aunts and cousins sending bad energy and casting spells against her, and her cousins were plotting against her. To the point where she blocked them all on social, and even told me to block them. Her sister said that it’s gotten to a point where she doesn’t talk about them and even said that she doesn’t care if she runs into them on the street(she previously was scared of it) however she hasn’t reestablished contact with said relatives which I’m thinking maybe she still has those delusions.

Something that has been bothering me, is that her sister said that if they talk about me or the supposed “cheating” my wife will go from being in a good mood to locking up and shuts herself off. She said if they talk about it she’ll have a meltdown.
I know she isn’t properly medicated but has anyone who had false accusations of cheating/anything else had something similar?

It’s been bothering me a lot. I never cheated and never would cheat. I’d like to fix the relationship but I can’t even communicate with her at the minute. I’ve decided to take a step back and just continue on with life for now as she’s with her family and they will be helping her with treatment. It’s unfortunately taking longer than it should as her parents are paying for her appointments, I offered to pay but they said they’ll pay for things themselves and if they need any help they’ll ask. Her family do want us back together

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While it wasn’t about cheating, my son’s delusions about his dad never did go away. Mike claimed he had been sexually abused by his dad through his computer when he was in his 30’s.

Just the sight of his dad could trigger serious psychotic episodes. One time after he saw his dad at a distance, he severely keyed two of our cars. The transformation that was triggered was terrible to see in Mike’s face and was awful for Mike to experience.

Seeing his dad was distressful for Mike. When cancer was winning, he made me promise that we would not let his dad come see him, he hadn’t seen his dad for several years.

Taking care of Mike on his cancer journey would have been so much easier if both of us had been able to participate together. Living over 5 hours away from my husband for Mike’s last 18 months was a parental sacrifice. We understood how distressful this long held delusion was for Mike.

While on one hand, there could have been a chance that a deathbed goodby would have gone well, we didn’t risk it and followed Mike’s wishes. Heartbreaking for my husband to not see his youngest son one last time, yet another parental sacrifice in the world of schizophrenia.

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I am so sorry that you were all put in this terrible situation.