Hello - This is kind of a combination intro and venting, and asking if any one else has been in a similar situation. Thanks for letting me join. (Actually, I was on some kind of schizophrenia message board probably 15 years ago. It might have been this one, but I don’t remember and that was many computers ago.)
So, I stuck with him for way too long due to … stupidity? sense of responsibility? guilt? However, I will be leaving soon. He has places to go, siblings and/or parents, so he won’t be homeless.
He thinks he knows better than the doctors and won’t follow their advice. He takes some of his prescribed meds but not all. He thinks he has all the problems of the world solved, and posts his solutions on Facebook (believe me, they don’t make any sense). He never lets a fact interfere with his opinion. He thinks he’s perfectly healthy even with decades of heavy smoking and coughing fits multiple times a day.
I’m done with his total selfishness. He never puts me or our children ahead of himself. He smokes in the house even though it gives the rest of us asthma attacks and/or migraines. One of our sons had to force him to come to the hospital when our daughter was dying last year (he was saying she’ll be fine, the doctors are wrong, it’s ONLY a code blue, that just means her oxygen is low). Meanwhile, I have an urn with ashes and some photos, all that is left of her.
Now it’s time to save myself. We have other kids but they’re all adults. I’ll be moving in with one of them.
I hope I haven’t allowed his view of the world to damage me too much. I want to find myself again and help my kids get on with their lives, too.