Hi everyone, my extended family ,
My husband “surprised” me at work today, having taken a flight from CA to where I am. I didn’t know he was planning on coming back and I don’t like surprises. The weather is dreadful, raining heavily. He was soaking wet. I met him briefly after work. I got soaked and he got soaked again as well. I don’t like surprises and wasn’t prepared for him to be here so soon.
It was a rough situation for him the first two times he tried to live here, but now it is even worse, financially. There are less jobs, less housing opportunities and less services. My family member was devastated to hear he was back, is worried for my safety (I am not worried about safety.) and my well-being (I am worried about my well-being.). My husband is not violent, but he is demanding, persistent and angry.
Of course, I gave him what little money I had with me so he could eat and get a bus to an area that is drier for the night. Tomorrow will be a new day. I am not sure what to do. He says he won’t use street marijuana or other drugs like he did before, but hard drugs are everywhere here and he doesn’t hang out with the most decent people, as much as he likes to play it up that he is a “decent guy.”
I have a therapist visit in two weeks, feel like it can’t come soon enough. I need help dealing with this.