@oldladyblue thanks, that reminds me of a couple other things I wanted to say. First, as you say there’s a degree of disinterest or confusion about intimacy and dating, similar to what people with autism say. We might ask why would we want this, or look at relationships from a more utilitarian perspective.
Second, even if we want a relationship, we’re just plain bad at it. My prodrome started in High School which is when most people are figuring out and practicing relationships. Withdrawing into yourself isn’t a successful relationship starter strategy.
And if you recovery later on, you are missing important lessons you might have learned. For example, I never really learned to kiss properly. My first long term girlfriend didn’t like kissing for whatever reason, so we just didn’t. This made subsequent relationship transitions awkward, I often end up having what I call “the talk” before even kissing so as to explain/excuse. I’m beginning to suspect good kissing is only done by a select few, or is highly dependent on someone leading.
My advice to those in relationships with partners with SZ is never assume anything relationship-wise, we’re most likely ignorant of how they’re supposed to work. In recovery you always feel behind anyway, like Rip Van Winkle. This is just another aspect of this.