I’m wondering what I can do for my sister
Clare is 41 has late onset major depression, ptsd, emotionally unstable personality disorder, anxiety, alcoholism and enduring psychosis for 7 years. She is usually suicidal and is prone to inflicting extreme self injury, and more recently a return to severe bulimia, she was previously anorexic.
Our 77 year old mum takes care of everything
Our middle sister (of 3 of us), Harriet, was 12 years psychotic before going in hospital for 2 years from where she escaped and was hit by a car and killed, aged 25 which my mum blames herself for her death putting her in a place she didn’t want to be
My mum now does not try to get my sister sectioned, and I have had little to no support in helping. She has spoken to my con, and care coordinators previously but with one chat she gives up.
My sister will not seek anything outside relationship no friend, peer support, doctors, mental health services, AA nothing occasionally goes to try to find a new life and relocates for a few weeks or months
We have had people round to help, nurses, ambulance
over 7 years we have tried everything
One police officer said that suicide is not a crime and that my sister has the right to do it as an adult
One officer coaxed me to say that because of self injury she may indeed have a knife so then we had to wait for 4 riot police
Ambulances have been called to ask for help, once when she was unresponsive and he said something about loving to help and then had another call I think
My sister plans to commit suicide when our mum dies
We all know this it’s accepted
Clare does not for want mum to go through losing another daughter.
Whether the police are negligent or illegally damaging
Is it worth it in reality to forcibly section someone who is so totally non compliant?
Could having an advocate help me?
I have mild autism and schizophrenia… I often muddle my words,
especially around Clare or authority figures and wonder if there were to be contact with medical personnel or even yourself as a lawyer…
Should I myself have a guardianship status for Clare?
She is 100% dependant on our Mum
And I could perhaps help her with finances and help with practicalities of life, as soon as mum becomes incapacitated
I think maybe I need to do something about this. perhaps guardianship if it is the best thing before our mum can no longer help.
Clare believes my husband is getting all my money for himself and will leave me with nothing and give to the Church and that his 85yr old mother is in on it.
Frankly she doesn’t trust him so it might be difficult to get her consent