Success!! Just spoke to him again, he’s agreed to take medication. I have hopes that he can finally get to recovery this way, it’s been a long road to get him here. ^.^
You know, I don’t think his illness makes it ok for him to talk to you like that. I would not respond for a day either. Well, I would try not to. I know that’s probably off base… my husband is talking to me like that too.
If you knew where he was, what would you do?
Doctor,
That’s great about the meds! Now someone go convince my husband!
Great Doctor. Happy for the result.
Sadwife, it is very hard also convincing my son to take meds as well.
He called me 45 times tonight and I had to put my phone on mute so I would not hear it ringing.
The issue that sometimes, I work with Uber as Part Job at night and tonight I lost 3 customers because of his phone calls. I was taking time to get to riders and 3 riders cancelled on me.
this is going too far. He really sick. All he says that he needs all my money and he needs $600 immediately.
I wonder if I contact the police in the city he is in and tell them that he harassing me all the time by calling my cell phone from a Skype Cloud Phone. Maybe they they can make efforts to find him.
I added an unmasking feature on y phone and it is unmasking all his from 2 different telephone:
I tried blocking these Skypes telpehone but I still get phone calls from him.
You are right Sadwife but Now I can see how sick he is:
He called me 45 times tonight and I had to put my phone on mute so I would not hear it ringing.
The issue that sometimes, I work with Uber as Part Job at night and tonight
I lost 3 customers because of his phone calls. I was taking time to get
to riders and 3 riders cancelled on me.
this is going too far.
He really sick. All he says that he needs all my money and he needs $600 immediately.
I feel I have to do something and I do not know what?
This is so sad.
Ikr?! Thank you! If I end up being a psychologist I hope I can help people in the way that I’ve done with my friends and family someday. 
Thank you! Skype calling features an email, regardless of the device one is using, so you may want to figure out which email he is using to call you.
Since my husband is mentally ill and an addict I am also involved in support for familes if addicts. I seem to need both groups lol. I should start my own dual diagnosis board for people with borderline personality disorder and PTSD. The more initials the merrier! Trying for levity there.
Anyway, some of it doesn’t make sense for us. We can’t detach and leave them to their own devices. I don’t think you realize you’ve hit rock bottom if God is telling you you’re on a mission… or its harder and there’s another rock bottom. But, and this is a big “but” for me. I was serious with “if you knew where he was what would you do?” You could call the police and hope they think he needs help, right? Then what?
I’m very clumsily getting at… I’m realizing that the stuff with my beloved husband is out of my control. We have to get to a place where our needs and sanity matter too. If you got even 2 minutes peace turning off the ringer, then you did something good. Boundaries setting, for me, is hard. It’s ok to take care of us, is all I’m saying.
You are doing a great job with all this. I admire you.
@Sadwife Try these:
My therapist once thought my mother had BPD, so I went to those to reading other people’s stories and experiences to check off if it could’ve been true. She doesn’t though, she’s a psychopath with narcissistic tendencies, which contrasts against the classic feelings of guilt, depression, anxiety, general discontent, sadness, suicidal ideation, social isolation, and self-harm that comes with BPD.
IMO, yes, its best to just ignore the pestering. You can still send the money on schedule, but don’t respond to the pestering.
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When my son has been in these states, I have just told him, I am not going to respond to these types of things. And then I don’t. As soon as he sends a nice text, I respond with appreciation for his changed attitude.
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I agree. but since my son is sick and he is irrational, do you really think he is comprehending what I am saying to him.
I feel is not hearing what I ask him or say to him. he keeps ignoring my questions.
How would I know when he is rational and when he is irrational?
He keeps asking the same question over and over. Asking for Money even though he has $100 in his account.
When I ask what do you need the money for. his answer is:
“it does not matter, just give me more Money”
“I need at least $600 now.”
I am just hoping that someone will see what he is going through and finding help soon.
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I would say, the pestering has its pros and Cons. the Pros that he is doing something and not getting into trouble with other people. He was pestering yesterday for almost 3 hours with is calls on and off.
of course, the Cos is he is holding me up and not allowing me to work at night or have a life.
I had asked my brother to check the places that he might be at but this process is long…
I am praying for his safety and hope someone can sees that he is sick and can get help soon…
I do not see how I can convince him to come back.
Thanks Sadwife. I am glad he is calling but I cannot communicate with him.
I feel I am talking to a illness and not able to get through to him.
he keeps on pestering me with his constant demand for $.
I know he has about $100 in his account but he keeps asking for more money.
I am praying that he stay Safe.
I am seriously considering to get a Job in California and move there so I can be closer to him and may be able to help him more…
This is so hard God.
The only reason why I would think that he wants at least $600 is to either get drugs or get an apartment/efficiency/studio. Try asking him if he’s trying to get a place.
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I’ve been thinking about you all day. I hope today was better.
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Thanks Sadwife. I am Sad, I have not heard from my son for few days and last time he withdraw from his account was october 26 about $120.00 and a SFBay Ara Transit Ticket on 10/27 and small sandwich.
Not debits/withdrawal is showing under his ATM Account since October 27. I reported it him to the police again in the Area he was last seen by my Brother.
I will be talking to a Detective on Monday, I am not sure what else to do.
I have very high anxiety and keep thinking that he may robbed and killed since he is not communicated by email or skype or using his ATM.
I am crying often and cannot find comfort in anything… Please keep us in your prayers.
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not easy to communicate with him. My brother saw him last on October 26 and gave his BackPak and he was cursing my brother and bad mouthing him a lot.
Also, a woman friend close to that area contacted him by email. last time he responded was october 28 at 6:30AM.
I am Sad, I Do not know about him for few days now. The last time he withdraw from his account was october 26 about $120.00 and a Bay Ara Transit Ticket of $6.00 on 10/27 and small sandwich of $4.00.
Not debits/withdrawal is showing under his ATM Account since October 27. I reported it him to the police again in the Area he was last seen by my Brother.
I will be talking to a Detective on Monday, I am not sure what else to do.
I have very high anxiety and keep thinking that he may robbed and killed since he is not communicated by email or skype or using his ATM.
Any Suggestions.
Please keep us in your prayers.
I have not heard any activities from him through my brother or friend since october 28.
My anxiety level is getting high. I do not know what else I can do other than Contacting the Police.
and I have contacted the Police and will be talking to a detective on Monday.
is it possible that he can be robbed or harmed and police would not know about him?
my God, this is so Hard!
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It’s possible the police wouldn’t know, but maybe he’s simply lost his debit card?
Or maybe he’s in the hospital & won’t let them release any information?
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