Well it’s the 30th and he bought a ticket, last you heard of him was the 28th. He withdrew $120; could probably be keeping it as cash so that way you don’t know where he’s heading to. I could track him if he had a phone on him or a stable laptop where the IP address could be hacked, but he has neither. 
There’s really nothing that I can do beyond that. The P.I. is honestly your best option for now, but find someone who won’t just track him online, but actually physically find him. Though that’s going to cost you a lot of money. When his uncle saw him, he should’ve detained him and called the police so that they could take him to a hospital instead of letting him go. Warn your brother to do this in case he does show up a second time around.
if he lost his debit card, I think he would call me to ask for money?
I hope he is the Hospital. this would be the best thing to happen to him.
Just get news from my Brother that he tried to call him 3 times this afternoon and left him a text message if he wants to talk to him. My brother could not pick up because he was taking a shower.
My brother will email him and wait to hear from him again.
@CAAR2016 That’s good. If he sent a text, does it mean he has a stable number?
he sent him a text message from some online text messaging service.
my Brother is a Social Worker in the Area and I had asked him if we need to inform the police when he meets him Tuesday and my brother does not think it is a good idea since he has been calling him every several days and wanted to meet with him.
he thinks if he calls the police, then my son would not longer trust my brother and if police could not take him because they cannot find enough evidence that he is a danger to himself or others, then the trust relationship would be broken between my son and my brother and this may make things difficult to reach to him.
Since I am far away, I have to trust my brother on this.
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I may have the serial # of the laptop he has. I am going to try to get IP Address. I am calling the Detective today and see what he will suggest.
I see. But you haven’t contacted the police over there and told them the situation? Maybe it could change and they could put him in the hospital once they did that.
I have been contacting the police over there and I called them yesterday and I have a detective assigned to my Son’s Case. I am calling the Detective today, but my brother does not think it is a good idea to let the police show up when he meets my son on Tuesday.
My brother thinks that I had called the police many times on my Son int he past and put him in 4 hospitals so far and he thinks the trust is an issue between my Son and I and my son will not trust me anymore.
he wants to try something else and let him trust him and see if my son will eventually comply by earning his trust!
Not sure anymore what to think!!
do you think I should go ahead and tell the police about the meeting between my Son and My brother and let the police contact my brother.
but I do not want to upset my brother!
but I am thinking loud!. would my brother be able to convince him to comply on meds and how long it will take?
my Son is using his manipulative technique to get to see my brother & ask my brother for things like money. But he curses him when he does not get his way.
This Tuesday, my brother will give $50 food gift card even though my son had asked him about $100 bill.
we agreed to just give the food gift card, but I have a feeling my son will be upset and will curse at him.
my Brother is a Social worker and he knows how to deal with these issues. should I let him handle it on his own without involving the police?
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IF your son meets your brother, I hope he can assess if your son is doing anything that could be construed as being a danger to himself. Approaching strangers and talking nonsense or cursing them could be considered self-endangering in some neighborhoods.
Unfortunately, I have had to breech my son’s trust on multiple occasions to make certain he would be safe. But if it appears your son is sufficiently well to take care of himself, there may be nothing the police can do. I know it hurts to see your son living in this hand-to-mouth way.
I think it’s honestly the best option to contact them and have them as backup just in case something goes awry with them two and he decides to leave again.
I think your brother will call the police if he thinks he needs to.
Let your brother assess since he is a social worker.
Just an opinion.
I’m glad your son is okay and getting a food card.
In my opinion, keeping that trust is crucial.
I think your brother could make that decision if necessary but I agree with his decision.
I agree with your brother. I’d let him give it a try.
Thanks for all your input.
will see how it goes.
But it does hurts tremendously to see my son this way.
he is does not trust me !!
He is not emailing me or talking to me any more after he is talking to my brother.
Schizophrenics rarely trust anyone. You ever see them get that look in the eye? The one where they look side to side and then stare or squint at you? Yeah, that’s the look I know personally from my fiancé, my two friends, and my aunt. Sometimes you just have to act without their consent on things so that they can get better. Your son is the guy who was calling his uncle gay (who has a wife, but lives with other people) among other things, right? Well if he was screaming at him last time when picking up his backpak, what makes you think that it’s going to be any different this time when he goes to see him? Is he the kind of person who would hurt himself or someone else? You have to think this through, because one wrong move could be the reason why you never see him again and he disappears.
I think you have a valid point. I will discuss it with my brother tonight. I gave him all the input I get from this forum and I will let him decide what needs to be done.
Note:
My brother does not have a wife. he is living with two roommates: one girl and a guy. (Smile)
That’s good, you two should be able to work it out together for the benefit of your son. Ohh, so I remembered the roommates! Sorry about the wife, it must’ve been another person then. >.<
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