I’ve been with my wife for 5 year, 2 of them married. She went into mania and psychosis February. I saw the signs but I didn’t know what was going on. I took her to see our doctor and she had us go to the ER. Once there they processed her to a mental health hospital. She was there for a week and it broke my heart. When she got out we kind of celebrated, I took her out to eat but her mood would shift dramatically from angry to paranoia. She was taking her medication but I thought it was getting worse. While she was far better than she was before she was admitted, she was still up and down with her mood. She didn’t like the seroquel she was taking even though it was a low dose so she eventually stopped taking it. Later she only took lexapro but stopped a few days ago and her anger and paranoia got worse. She was blaming me for putting her in the mental health hospital and we had arguments about maybe 5 times a week. So a few days ago as she was yelling at me, she said I was spying and making a movie about her because she cheated on me back in November when she went to Brooklyn with some friends/associates. I was floored, I couldn’t believe it so I checked phone records and saw she was calling a guy at 1am back and forth.
My heart still hurts, she won’t take medication and I want her to get better. In November I didn’t notice any thing unusual in her behavior prior to her trip or after. She went to New York earlier in the year but came back early because her younger brother committed suicide he had schizophrenia. Then I found out her mom had it too. So now when I bring up the cheating and ask questions she refuses to answer me. I’m frustrated, hurt and scared because I don’t know what to do to get her better. Meanwhile with our high deductible insurance plan our bills are pulling up and we’re struggling to pay rent and she can no longer work.
My two questions are, could her cheating be due to her illness? Also how do I get her to take her medication? I’m afraid if I take her in for an evaluation she may have to stay. And her doctors appointment isn’t until June.