Family and Caregiver Schizophrenia Discussion Forum

Need Advise Please!


#1

My husband mom had schizophrenia its just too hard I dont know how to handle. She cries alot the doctor has changed her medications but we still cant figure out why shes allways crying. His side of the family wont help because they can deal with her either, they get frustrated because in less than 2 days she want to go somewhere else. We have to work we cant stay with her all day and when we do she still cries for no reason.


#2

It sounds like she has depression, has she contacted her doctor about that?


#3

Yes shes taking medication for it. We cant say anything to her and she believes by crying we are going to do what she wants.


#4

Oh okay, didn’t realize it was like that. Don’t know what to tell you than… If she is depressed her doctor needs to know about it. It’s a serious thing.


#5

Have you asked her why she is crying?


#6

As long as she is not suicidal or self destructive I don’t think it will hurt her to cry alone. Maybe she can get some of those emotions off her chest by doing that.


#7
  1. Get a copy of this book and read it. Have your family read it, too.
    http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Schizophrenia-6th-Edition-Family/dp/0062268856

  2. If she/he needs a professional intervention, tell me where you live, and I will get back to you with leads to those services.

  3. Get properly diagnosed by a board-certified psychopharmacologist who specializes in the psychotic disorders. One can find them at…
    https://psychiatrists.psychologytoday.com/rms/

  4. Work with that p-doc to develop a medication formula that stabilizes your symptoms sufficiently so that you can tackle the psychotherapy that will disentangle your thinking. The best of the therapies for that currently include…

DBT – http://behavioraltech.org/resources/whatisdbt.cfm
MBSR – http://www.mindfullivingprograms.com/whatMBSR.php
ACT – https://contextualscience.org/act
10 StEP – http://pairadocks.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-10-steps-of-emotion-processing.html

  1. the even newer somatic psychotherapies like…

MBBT – https://www.newharbinger.com/blog/introduction-mind-body-bridging-i-system
SEPT – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_Experiencing
SMPT – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensorimotor_psychotherapy

  1. or standard CBTs, like…

REBT – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_therapy
Schematherapy – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_Therapy
Learned Optimism – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_optimism
Standard CBT – http://www.beckinstitute.org/what-is-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/About-CBT/252/


#8

Maybe she just feels like crying because she’s sad. When we get schizophrenia we lose a lot. We lose a part of us and it’s really sad. I think every person with schizophrenia feels like crying at the enormity of our disease. In other words our disease is overwhelming because it effects every facet of our lives. It’s almost like it would be weirder if we didn’t cry.


#9

I’d say depression. I used to (and still am to a lesser degree) very suicidal and I would just start crying sometimes. I wouldn’t tell anyone why because I beleived I didn’t deserved help because I was so worthless.

Still battling that one :confused: . Therapy would also be good. I find it easier to talk to therapists because they are legally obligated to not talk about what I’ve told them unless they believe I’m a risk to myself or others. This is one of the only reasons I believe someone won’t turn on me. They have a lot to lose if they betray my confidence and that gives me the strength to talk to them.


#10

I would take her to the hospital. Get her on some meds and get some help form a social worker. There are support groups and drop in centers for people to go to. Maybe she would feel better if she could get out and make some friends. Contact Nami they have solutions. God bless you for helping her.


#11

It’s a sad thing that crying has been stigmatized like this…

I cry that people don’t cry about this world…

My first thought when I visited a psychiatrist “What? He wants me to be a robot?”

Then when I began to cry he asked my mom, who was sitting in the chair next to me her legs crossed, leaned back and clicking her fingernail on her teeth with almost no concern that I was crying, “How do you have the patience for this?”

… There are no words to express my total disgust with that statement …


#12

We live in zellwood fl. She goes to this clinic but I dont really see the interest of them helping her they always ask the same questions. Whenever I tried to get info about how to deal with her and learn to live with her they dont care…


#13

She has been in the hospital. At the clinic they just give her more meds or increase the dose for depression. Thats exactly what we are looking for some place she can feel useful. Shes diabetic too so you can imagine the struggle we go through everyday.


#14

Several years ago I used to cry on regular basis.

Why am I crying?

I don’t know the true underlying cause

but

I do know why crying was soooooooooooo…ooooooooooooooo regular and automatic,

it’s because my Brain was generating sad stories and I was automatically crying

one fine day I declared to my parents that I can cry at will

that is idiotic

I also said some other time that I don’t understand why people commit suicide

and long time ago, I started getting Suicidal thoughts

for three long days I got too many suicidal thoughts

and on the third day I got this thought

… this thought ended my suicidal thoughts forever

KILL THE THOUGHT DO NOT KILL THE BODY.


#15

I know she tries to manipulate everyone around her. I tell my husband im sorry but thats not going to happend with me. She gets mad when I dont let her eat food thats not good for her. Since they have been living with me she has lost alot of weight. I know its his mom but for her own good we have to be strict with her.


#16

There are reasons why healthy human is so healthy

and there are reasons why we here in this forum are not (healthy).

We just

(1). Don’t have money

(2). We just don’t know how to get money.

(3). We just don’t know or don’t have correct

diagnosis or illness list. My illness list is

(1) Paranoid type Schizophrenia and (2) Depression and

I don’t even know if I have OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

I don’t even know why I’m unhealthy and what to do.

If you the TeleVision popular series X-Files

X-Files -------> " The Truth Is Out There ".

So we just do not know how to replicate

healthy individual health to us, the unhealthy individuals.


#17

@dlzg

http://doctor.webmd.com/results?cond=447&city=Orlando&state=FL&lat=28.4177&lon=-81.2978&sd=94&tname=Psychiatry

60 practices in Orange County. All specialists in sz.


#18

I can imagine the struggle she goes through every day, please be compassionate. You can always work but you can not always be there for a family member that is in such misery.


#19

It’s hard to deal with schizophrenia because when normally when someone is hurting, like for example, a cancer patient you can see what he/she has gone through physically. You can see the hurt, the loss of hair from chemo, the weight loss the loss of appetite. However, when a person is mentally ill you can’t see that they’re hurting and the pain that they’re going through. The crying, that may just be a thing that is specific to her however, something that may be extremely helpful though is to seek professional help via counseling or therapy.