Thank you. We are 15+ years into this journey. So we have had a while to come to terms with it.
We are fortunate, I suppose, in that paranoid schizophrenia is often a higher functioning form of the illness. And that over time there does appear to be a lightening in the symptoms in that a measure of normalcy can be obtained. I suppose the neighbor who called the police when he was yelling at the sky probably disagrees, but that is if that neighbor only knew the really dark places this illness can take you they would see the yelling at the sky as nothing.
He does have some skills with CBT (although when going through it fought it ) And LEAP comes in handy for ME I have found. It lowers my stress because I no longer feel the need to address and redirect every thing he says/does. A med that would help would be great, but his tolerance put him at such a high dose with the last go around that he was nothing more than a lump on the couch. What he shared later, was the misery of those feelings were not better than the fear in delusions. And that breaks my heart.
Until the day he is willing to try something, he knows I will only force the issue if there is violence and risk of life and limb to him or others. And that oddly, has caused trust to grow. One day at a time.