Trying to stop neglecting my own health

Does anyone else find that they skip screenings or appointments for themselves? Between all the appointments for my sons (all have some type of special needs), I ended up not having a mammogram or check up for several years. Now I’m catching up, but have a hard time with all the scolding from doctors.

Maybe it’s low-level depression. I’m trying to plan rewards for myself every time I schedule an appointment. Hoping this works!

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Yes, this was me for a long time. I ended up getting regular therapy from a wonderful therapist at the same place my son’s doctor was from. I have been slowly improving ever since and getting better at prioritizing my health without guilt. It’s like that old saying, if your plane is going down you have to put your oxygen mask on first before you can help another. Anyway, good luck and you can do it! :hugs:

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Thank you! I’m glad to hear you are doing better with it. A therapist is another thing I keep thinking I’ll try.

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Definitely worth the effort! Sometimes it can take a couple tries to find one that clicks with you and sometimes you hit it off right away. The first one I had didn’t click with me, but the second try was the perfect one for me. It’s so good to have an unbiased person to confide in that also has a wealth of coping skills to teach you. :slight_smile:

This is totally something I struggle with!! It’s carer fatigue. You’ve got this :heart:

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I love your post about not “clicking” with a therapist. Unfortunately, too often people try once and declare it doesn’t work, when really it was just a bad fit. Therapists are like shoes - one size does not fit all!!

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You are not alone. Wish you the best and I agree with the rest. It is sad that even taking care of ourselves can become a battle for us.

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Thank you. Having this forum helps, and I also joined a good Facebook group. And I’ve been doing a Zoom NAMI group, so it should all add up to some good support!

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Thanks for the updates and glad that it is working for you. Do you mind if I ask about the Facebook group?

It’s called Families of Schizophrenia Support Group. I saw someone mention it on this forum a while back.

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Thank you. It was very helpful.

I am not really a facebook user. Is this group completely private? No one can see that you are a member of the group and no one can see the posts?

It is a private group. On the other hand, I’m still somewhat cautious of what I post. I suppose you could make a different Facebook account just for using that group.

That’s a peeve of mine with Facebook and other social media that’s unfriendly to anonymous accounts and speech. I’ve had Facebook reject pseudonyms and disable accounts, so I’ve resorted to searching obituaries for plausible pseudonyms for a handful of Facebook groups and to use Facebook Marketplace which is slowly killing off sites like Craigslist. It’s technically against their usage agreement, but I feel they’ve violated my privacy six ways to Sunday with shadow accounts and such that I have little compunction employing this practice.

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