Something happened the other day that really upset me.
My brother Terence was not doing to good lately, so I thought it might be a good idea just to get him out of the house for a bit. I asked him if he wanted to eat out for dinner with a friend of mine, and he agreed to going. He does not usually like to go out to restaurants because they are too loud, so I was pretty happy that he would be joining us.
We all went over to the restaurant together, and he seemed pretty happy to be out of the neighbourhood for a while. We ordered dinner and he was very talkative. He is not very coherent, but even if you cannot understand him, he is very interesting to listen to.
Throughout the dinner, he would occasionally talk really loud unintentionally. He does that when he is excited, and I am not sure that he realizes how loud he is. People seated at tables around him would stare, and I would try to politely tell him to quite down. As soon as he was reminded of his volume he would. It really was not that big of a deal.
By the time we were near finished with dinner, he had begun to speak loudly again and before I could say anything to him, some man who was sitting behind him turned around. I had not even noticed him the entire meal, but he had noticed us.
He looked me in the eye annoyed and said something along the lines of 'I don’t want him yelling in my ear every five minutes, can’t you keep him quiet."
I was shocked. Usually people just sort of mind their own business. I felt angry and sad all at once. I leaned across the table and said ‘Well, he obviously isn’t right in the head, just turn around!’
He turned around and we all just sort of sat there. Terry was obviously upset. He did not say a word for the rest of the night. I asked if he wanted dessert, which I am sure is the reason he came along in the first place and he shook his head. I asked if he wanted to leave and he nodded.
We went home shortly after and he went straight to bed without even a change of clothes. I could hardly sleep at all, I was wondering whether he was upset over the stranger behind him, or me, for saying that he ‘wasn’t right in the head’. He is very sensitive about that sort of thing. I felt terrible.
This morning, he hasn’t spoken to me. I know how he reacts to criticism and that. When someone says something about him he doesn’t like, he just thinks about it over and over again. He can stay upset over a little thing for days. All he wants to do is watch TV and listen to music (at the same time).
Now, I am not quite sure what to do. Terry is usually a very talkative person, so it is obvious he is upset. I am upset myself, and I am not quite sure how to approach the situation. Shall we just pretend it never happened?
Anyway, I just wanted to get that out there. Has anyone ever had any similar experiences? Am I making this into something bigger than it really is?